Planning for & Looking Forward to 2013

2012, I will not be sad to see you go, and 2013 is looking mighty fine from where I stand today.

First half of 2012 seemed fine.  Work, life, and everything inbetween seemed to be on an even keel, moving along quite well. Then I found myself in July not knowing which was up, down, left, or right.  Work was a little rocky after a less than seamless transition, I broke a bone for the first time in my life, New York City saw the worst monster storm it's ever seen, and I ended the year sicker than I've been in years with the flu.  To say that I am excited for the fresh start of 2013, would be an understatement.  This year was not bad really, and in fact it had some really great moments - I rediscovered my love of swimming, I explored Nova Scotia for the first time and thoroughly enjoyed it, and I received an amazing honor to start teaching at the Syracuse University iSchool (note: the #1 graduate school for information studies in the country, nbd) in January as an adjunct professor. Fairly balanced overall.

2013 is starting off with a bang.  I took my first full two week vacation since 2010 and after only a week feel rejuvenated (minus the crippling flu a few days ago). Those who say that community managers work 24/7 and can never take vacations are sorely, sorely mistaken and aren't worth their weight in mud.  No person should work 24/7, or be expected to. All that means is that you haven't figured out how to delegate, set expectations, and organize time accordingly. Taking time off and away from the internet is a necessary action.

Aside from the time off, heading into a new year always causes people to take in a breath of fresh air and think clearly about how they want to start it off.  Making resolutions is a fun thing to do and most people go with the usual health, fitness, travel, etc.  All good things, but it's wise not to be too general which is why I always say instead of making resolutions you should be setting attainable goals.  Think of the big buckets, and then the focus points within those buckets, and then tell yourself how you will achieve those goals. 

For example, here are my 2013 buckets & goals:

Bucket: Financial
Goal:  Pay no ATM Fees in 2013
  • Last year I paid $76 in ATM fees according to my Mint.com info.  This year, with the use of my bank's mobile app, I can always search for the closest ATM within my system to avoid paying for a fee.  If there is not an ATM within walking/driving distance, then the closest grocery/drugstore will suffice for their cashback system. 
Goal: Live within my means.  Set a weekly budget & stick to it.
  • I've been a little lazy about realizing how much money I have left to play with after bills are paid, and have used my credit cards liberally this year as a result.  By using Mint.com as well as a better bill paying system & Excel I plan to be more aware week to week of expendable cash & frivolous expenditures.   
Goal: Get more friends to use Venmo (a mobile payment system)
  • In 2011 I was recommended to start using Venmo.  Venmo quickly became a running joke amongst my circle of friends for a variety of reasons, but the 6 of us use it religiously.  We go out to eat quite often, go to concerts/sports/various ticketed events, take cabs, and generally owe each other money fairly often.  Venmo has completely changed how we share money back and forth and has that fun social element that used to belong only to the "Memo:" line of a check.  It's incredibly fast and free, and is definitely the future of banking.  This is also not a paid advertisement, I just generally love the ease in which I can pay (or charge) my friends so as to not mess around with cash or checks.  
Bucket: Health 
Goal: Swim 1 Mile
  • 2012 I was reintroduced to swimming as an excellent form of exercise after I broke my foot.  I was on a zero to a mile in 6 weeks program that was ruined by the storm taking out my gym, and of course the holidays.  In 2013 I plan to finally reach that mile, and then I plan to do it again faster.  And repeat, and repeat.
Goal: Stick to 1500 Calories per day
  • I in no way shape or form plan to get rid of the good stuff, but as they say, everything in moderation.  Less sugar, better portion control, and more nutritious meals are in the works for 2013.  Overall, just be smarter.
Goal: Drink Less
  • This is a tough one. Social events, new cocktail bars, networking events all focus around booze.  2012 saw 4-5 drinking events per week sometimes.  2013 won't be less events (if anything there will be more), but perhaps a glass of red wine to replace sugary cocktails or heavy beer, or a glass of water will be in order.
Bucket: Life
Goal: Use my time more efficiently. 
  • With a lot on my plate I should make sure to put hours in my calendar to get a project done.  Or to meet more people for coffee. I plan to structure my calendar and limit distractions.
Goal: Travel more.  At least 1 international location this year.
  • From 2007-2009 I had a nearly full passport of stamps and visas.  In 2012 I did not get ONE stamp (Canada didn't count).  I don't care how or when I get this stamp, but I will go somewhere in 2013 to make up for it. 
Goal: Go on more dates. 
  • Something I didn't do much of in 2012 or put much effort into.  I had a few pretty bad first dates, said good bye to someone I was seeing fairly often, and decided to work more than care about my personal life. I plan to change that in 2013 by being more open to the possibility of a relationship.   
Bucket: Professional

Goal: Keep on, Keepin' On. 
  •  This is one area where I don't really have a goal other than to just knock what I'm doing out of the park, and figure out how to make more money while being happy doing what I do everyday. 
    • Community Strategy at 2U, inc. -- complete the big projects I've set up for myself in 2012, and then make them consistently better
    • TheCommunityManager.com -- more events, bigger content, building on what we've done in 2012
    • Teaching -- Putting together my first Graduate level course, and perfecting my teaching methods
What are your goals for 2013?  What will you do differently (if anything?)


Things To Do Before Turning 30

The end is near for me, folks.  It's already happened to so many of my friends, and it's been hard to watch for those who it's just about to happen to.  If you can't tell by my use of the word "folks" I'll be turning 30 later this year.  We all know that when you turn 30 you spontaneously combust and that's all there is.  Your 20s are everything, the only time when you get to blame anything on being young and stupid.  If you excel before you're 30 its looked upon as you're a diamond in the rough and a shining example compared to your counterparts.  Nope - when you turn 30 you inevitably fall off a cliff, never to be heard from again, and your ideas aren't as great as when you were young. You're old. Out of touch. Irrelevant. You've done all you can. I should buy myself a pair of mom jeans and stop wearing makeup, because once you're 30 you're no longer cool.

All kidding aside, you're as old as you feel and a recent trip back to my alma matter, Syracuse University, for a weekend proved to me that I still look and feel like I'm 24.  I've done more in my 20s than most people do their whole lives.  And yes, I have been waiting about 5 years to say that line.  I made it my goal to take life by the horns when I turned 18 knowing that post-30 society expects you to be an established adult.  I've traveled extensively, I've loved and lost, I'm in a successful career, and I have the greatest coworkers, friends and family.  The hardest part about life at the moment is coming up with new goals and figuring out how to dream bigger.  I could kick the bucket tomorrow, and be a happy girl.  But I want...no I need... more.

I found a list recently and realized while I may have accomplished a lot, I have not accomplished everything I've set out to do. My philosophy on life is that I should be expecting constant improvement of myself while being thoroughly entertained by my actions and of those around me.

Here's a list of the 150 things one should do before turning 30.  It's arbitrary and 50 more things could be added to it, but I feel pretty good having done 103 of these things, and wanting to do almost all of the rest.  How many have you done?  What's left on your list before?

Bold are things I've done.
Italics are things I have yet to do and will someday, if not this year.

01. Bought everyone in the bar a drink
02. Swam with dolphins 
03. Climbed a mountain 
04. Taken a sports car (Porsche, Lambo, Ferrari, etc.) for a test drive 
05. Been inside the Great Pyramid 
06. Held a tarantula 
07. Taken a candlelit bath with someone
08. Said “I love you” and meant it 
09. Hugged a tree 
10. Bungee jumped
11. Visited Paris or Italy or Greece other romantic European location
12. Watched a lightning storm at sea 
13. Stayed up all night long and saw the sun rise 
14. Seen the Northern Lights 
15. Gone to a huge sports game (South Korea / North Korea World Cup Qualifier!)
16. Walked the stairs to the top of the leaning Tower of Pisa
17. Grown and eaten your own vegetables 
18. Touched an iceberg
19. Slept under the stars (Camping during Chusok in Seoul)

20. Changed a baby’s diaper
21. Taken a trip in a hot air balloon 
22. Watched a meteor shower 
23. Gotten drunk on champagne 
24. Given more than you can afford to charity 
25. Looked up at the night sky through a telescope
26. Had an uncontrollable giggling fit at the worst possible moment 
27. Had a food fight 
28. Bet on a winning horse
29. Asked out a stranger 
30. Had a snowball fight 
31. Screamed as loudly as you possibly can
32. Be considered an expert resource on something
33. Seen a total eclipse
34. Ridden a roller coaster 
35. Hit a home run 
36. Danced like a fool and didn’t care who was looking 
37. Adopted an accent for an entire day 
38. Actually felt happy about your life, even for just a moment
39. Driven a motorcycle/scooter abroad  (...and maybe I crashed one..shhh)
40. Visited all 50 states 
41. Taken care of someone who was drunk 
42. Had amazing friends 
43. Danced with a stranger in a foreign country 
44. Watched whales 
45. Stolen a sign 
46. Backpacked in Europe 
47. Taken a road-trip 
48. Gone rock climbing
49. Taken a midnight walk on the beach 
50. Gone sky diving  (THIS YEAR!!!)

51. Backpacked in Asia
52. Been heartbroken longer than you were actually in love
53. In a restaurant, sat at a stranger’s table and had a meal with them 
54. Visited Japan
55. Milked a cow
56. Alphabetized your CDs/computer music files
57. Pretended to be a superhero 
58. Sung karaoke 
59. Lounged around in bed all day
60. Played touch football 
61. Gone scuba diving (but I want to be certified)

62. Kissed in the rain 
63. Played in the mud (Mudfest 2008!!)

64. Played in the rain
65. Gone to a drive-in theatre 
66. Visited the Great Wall of China  (10k hike in January baby)

67. Started a business  (Thecommunitymanager.com)

68. Fallen in love and not had your heart broken
69. Toured ancient sites 
70. Taken a martial arts class
71. Seen Niagara Falls
72. Gotten married 
73. Been in a movie 
74. Crashed a party
75. Camped outside & slept on the ground
76. Gone without food for 5 days
77. Made cookies from scratch
78. Won first prize in a costume contest
79. Ridden a gondola in Venice
80. Gotten a tattoo  (3...w/ #4 coming soon)

81. Gone White Water Rafting
82. Been on a news program or in a newspaper as an “expert” 
83. Gotten flowers for no reason
84. Performed on stage
85. Been to Las Vegas 
86. Recorded music 
87. Eaten shark
88. Kissed on the first date 
89. Lived in another city internationally
90. Bought a house
91. Gone strip club hopping
92.  Ridden a camel.
93. Been on a cruise ship
94. Spoken more than one language fluently
95.  Watched 25 of the top 500 movies out there
96. Raised children
97. Followed your favorite band/singer on tour 
98. Passed out cold 
99. Taken an exotic bicycle tour in a foreign county (Multiple times in China)

100. Picked up and moved to another city to just start over 
101. Walked the Golden Gate Bridge 
102. Sang loudly in the car, and didn’t stop when you knew someone was looking with the windows open 
103.Had a One Night Stand
104. Survived an accident that you shouldn’t have survived 
105. Wrote articles for a large publication 
106. Lost over 100 pounds 
107. Held someone while they were having a flashback 
108. Piloted an airplane (thanks Hans!)
109. Touched a stingray 
110. Broken up with someone who wasn't the one
111. Helped an animal give birth
112. Won money on a TV game show
113. Broken a bone
114. Gone on an African photo safari
115. Had a facial part pierced other than your ears (eyebrow AND tongue)

116. Fired a rifle, shotgun, or pistol 
117. Eaten mushrooms that were gathered in the wild 
118. Ridden a horse 
119. Been on a plane longer than 8 hours
120. Had a snake as a pet
121. Hiked to the bottom of the Grand Canyon
122. Slept for a full day
123. Visited more foreign countries than U.S. States
124. Visited all 7 continents 
125. Taken a canoe trip that lasted more than 2 days
126. Eaten kangaroo meat
127. Eaten sushi (Found out I was allergic)

128. Had your picture in the newspaper 
129. Changed someone’s mind about something you care deeply about
130. Gone back to school 
131. Parasailed 
132. Touched a cockroach (UNFORTUNATELY.)
133. Eaten fried green tomatoes  (Dinosaur BBQ baby)
134. Read The Iliad and The Odyssey
135. Selected one “important” author who you missed in school, and read on your own
136. Killed and prepared an animal for eating
137. Skipped all your school reunions 
138. Communicated with someone without sharing a common spoken language
139. Write a book
140. Built or played in an Igloo
141. Thought to yourself that you’re living your dream
142. Gone skiing/snowboarding
143. Gone Surfing
144. Done something nice for someone just because
145. Compete in a sports competition
146. Dyed your hair 
147. Been a DJ  (WERW!  Z89!  K-Rock!)

148. Shaved your head/donate your hair to charity (Locks 4 Love)
149. Excel at public speaking in front of a large crowd  (LOVE IT!)
150. Saved someone’s life